By Being a married man is beyond just a title, It is a full time job. A married man’s duties goes beyond just providing for the family or protecting them. There are countless unwritten men’s duties and one of them is staying married. Marriage is beyond a feeling, it is a commitment. There are no perfect marriages and it will be a lie to say marriage is a jolly ride. Those couples you admire from a distance have challenges that are unknown to you. Imagine the cost of a divorce and its implications on you, your wife and even your children. That should want you to stay married. I know you have one thousand and one reason why you want to or wish to divorce your wife. The bottom line however is that divorce will cost you more than you bargained for. So, if this is the case, how can you stay married? I will share with you six ways to stay married as a man.
1. Make forgiveness your companion
If you must remain married to your wife, amongst other things, forgiveness is a must have in your marriage. A friend once told me the question a cleric asked his congregants. “Who should apologize when there is a quarrel in the home? He asked. Some responded that it should be the wife. Others said the husband should apologize. However, the cleric said: whoever loves or cherishes the marriage should be the first to apologize? Your wife will offend you and even rub it in your face. At this point, ensuring the continuity of your marriage should be your priority. This means you are mandated to toe the path of forgiveness. Though this may be difficult most times.
2. Don’t bottle up your displeasures
A repressed emotional displeasure is harmful to your health. As a man, you should be able to express your displeasure to your wife in the most clear and unambiguous manner. Make her see how her actions or inactions have affected you negatively.
3. Don’t discuss your wife’s weaknesses
One of the benefits of keeping sealed lips about your wife’s weaknesses to either your friends or family members is that you are liable to be advised wrongly against her by them. When you discuss your wife’s weaknesses, you are exposing your marriage to a breakup.
3. Be sexually available for your wife
Nothing pisses a wife more than a sexually disconnected or unavailable husband. Sex is like the cement that holds the blocks of marriage together. The lack of it, will bring cracks to the walls of that marriage. If not outright collapse. Most times, your wife may not be vocal about her need for sex but you should be sensitive to her unexpressed overtures. If you can sexually satisfy her, you are not only saving her from looking elsewhere, you are also saving your marriage.
4. Prioritize communication
If a marriage with lively communication collapses, how will those lacking it fare? Communication is important in marriage. This is the medium through which you can connect emotionally with your wife and she with you. It is a means through which differences are x-rayed and then ironed out.
5. Be truthful to your wife
There is a saying that you need one lie to cover for another, and it goes on and on until the lies are burst by the truth. To stay married, avoid lying to your wife. When your lie is discovered your wife can lose confidence in you. When this happens, you may lose your respect. Being truthful will save you from a lot of troubles.
Conclusion
Marriage is beautiful but divorce is costly. If you want to be married and stay married as a man, you should follow the steps I have shared above.
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