Handling Rejection The Right Way

2024-05-20T13:47:32+00:00

By Julius

Rejection is a state of being despised, ignored or left alone because you are not what the other person, most especially a woman, desires.There is always a right and wrong way of handling rejection. What you do after experiencing rejection from the opposite sex will prove whether you are mature or you need a lot of maturing to do.A friend once confessed to me some years back that he usually developed hatred for any lady he wooed who rejected his proposal. I laughed and I told him that was not the right way to handle rejection. There could be several reasons why a woman may reject a man’s proposal. Perhaps, that will be a lesson for another day.No one likes rejection but unfortunately, it is a fact of life. It is not everybody that will accept you and that does not mean that you are less a man or you are a subhuman. Always remember the attitude of the lizard when it falls down from a tree. It looks left and right and then gives itself a well-done nod.When you face rejection from a lady, it is not the time to think the whole world is turned against you. It shouldn’t make you feel less of yourself. Instead, it should make you feel proud that some people are too myopic to see the good that is embedded in your person.It is not gentleman like to develop deep seated hatred for any lady that rejects you. It is alright to feel bad but it shouldn’t make you do rash things like spreading ‘disaffection’ about the lady or making sure the lady pays dearly for rejecting you. When you do this, it shows you are not yet mature and that your intentions towards the lady is demented in the first place. When you admire a lady, her rejection of you shouldn’t be strong enough to douse the fire of your affection or interest for her as the case may be.

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It is not a time to make enemies out of the lady, especially when both of you work in the same organization, live in the same street or area and or you both attend the same worship centre. No rejection should make you lose your gentlemanship. Instead, It should make you reassert yourself that you are worth more than ten thousand other men in the world!See rejection from a lady as a blessing in disguise. Haven’t you heard or seen instances where a woman’s rejection of a man leads the same man to the right lady meant for him? Let me remind you that rejection is a subtle word. It could be that the lady is trying to tell you that she is not good enough for the kind of destiny you are going somewhere to make happen. Hence, her rejection of you.Let’s also look at the flip side of the coin. A woman’s rejection could mean that you have not reached your full potential yet. That means you are yet to discover yourself. There are still some things you need to add to your life’s curriculum vitae before you can be considered for friendship or marriage as the case may be.Rejection may not mean outright rejection. It could mean that you need to do the chasing using another tactic or method that is well acceptable to the lady in question. Most times, when a lady says no to you, she might have actually accepted you before you came to her, she only wants you to be more confident about your desire. She is trying to test how serious you are about her. Afterall, no lady will wait and sit while you waste her time and life!

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Know this at the back of your mind that not every lady will accept you. Sometimes, their rejection of you is embedded in the fact that you are not headed in the same destination as theirs. She could be someone who is going very far in life and you are the kind of person who is satisfied with living the less or average life.Don’t demonize every lady who rejects you. When you do, it shows that something is wrong with the way you reason. Everything will not be all about you all the time. People will surely have opposing views and that does not mean that you are the worst male man on the planet earth!Learn to accept yourself. Self acceptance is one sure way of seeing rejection as a thing not worth thinking about. If you know and admire who you are, any rejection from the opposite sex should be laughed off as one of those things life brings your way.Be self assured and confident. Your confidence is a rock of defense. If a pebble hits a rock, there is no damage done to the rock. The rock remains as it is. So, don’t allow rejection to ruffle your feathers. You are the best version that the creator has made.READ ALSO: Are You Are Real Father?