From Wooing To Wedding: 8 Things Every Groom Should Know

2024-06-19T08:25:29+00:00

By Julius

Now that you have crossed the milestone of wooing her and even gone a little further into making her your wife, what’s next?Marriage is a university on its own. Fortunately or unfortunately, you don’t get to graduate from it. It is not a four, five or six-year course as is the case in a university. Marriage is a lifetime department with a lot of courses. A good number of newlyweds run the risk of preparing for their weddings without preparing for the marriage. They don’t have an idea of what they’re going into and many of them make a mess of their marriage. This article isn’t to scare you but to prepare you as a man for what is coming next. If your marriage is going to stand the test of time, then you must pay close attention to the following tips because it will help you.

Settle Your Differences On Time

The beauty of any marriage is that divergent viewpoints will emerge and if it is not handled properly, it can lead to irreparable damages in the home. There is no marriage without its own challenges. However, how you manage your differences will determine whether your marriage will last or not. Once there is a conflict between you and your wife, make sure you deal with that conflict right on time. If it will require you to apologize to your wife, whether or not you are wrong, so that you can have peace in your home, please do it. It will save you your sanity. Don’t allow any conflict to escalate beyond the day it occurred.

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Love Alone Cannot Sustain Marriage

As a newlywed, the fire of romance will be high, the loving and cuddling will seem almost stretching to eternity. However, when the chips are down, you will begin to notice some weaknesses, habits and shortcomings in your wife. This will make you feel some resentment towards her. What will save your marriage at this time is your determination to succeed, your marital vows and your commitment to your wife.

You Need A lot of Forgiving To Do

You should understand that your wife is not perfect, neither are you. One important thing you must be ready to repeat seventy times seven times in your marriage is to forgive your wife whenever she offends you. Don’t wait until she apologies before you forgive her. Doing so will make you keep a record of wrongs and that is not in the nature of love.

Expect Tantrums From Her

Women are God’s wonderful creatures and for you to fully understand them, it will take you an eternity. She sometimes doesn’t understand herself; one minute, she is as bright as a rose, the next, she is withering like a sun burnt flower. You need to be patient with her during these messy moments and especially when she is pregnant: her emotions will be everywhere and anyhow.

Never Raise Your Hands Against Her

You should never raise your hands against your wife. Only weak men beat their wives. A strong man will not lift a finger against his wife no matter the provocation. There is no excuse for you to beat your wife. She is not your child but your marriage partner. The best thing to do when her words are piercing into your skin is to excuse yourself. Take a walk and return when you are much calmer.

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Don’t Compare Your Wife With Your Ex.

Don’t make it a habit to compare your wife with your ex. If your ex is that flawless, why didn’t you get married to her? Your wife is a unique gift to you, so learn to love her, celebrate her and bring the best in her.

Befriend Your Wife

What is the point of having a wife at home and ‘befriending’ your female colleagues in the office? If your wife is your best friend, there is nothing you cannot share with her and this will create an unbroken bond between both of you.

Love Your Wife

The first commandment to you as a husband is to love your wife. Women respond to love easily. If you love your wife, she will submit to you willingly and with gladness. Conclusion While it is a very good thing to be married, you should understand that marriage does not drive itself towards success, it is the partners in it that will work it out together. Your marriage will succeed to the degree of your commitment to it.READ ALSO: How To Communicate Better With Your Wife