Are You A Real Father?

2024-05-17T14:08:56+00:00

By Julius

There’s no doubt that anyone can father a child but only few men are real fathers. The role of a father as a mentor to his children cannot be overemphasized. When the house collapses, I am not talking about its physical collapse. I mean when the harmony in the home breaks down. The first finger of blame most likely will be on the father. What was he looking for when the home was coming down with cracks? What were his reactions to the tension brimming to explosion in the home? These and more are some of the questions the society lodge at the doorstep of the man.Why should a man be the first person to receive blame when a house collapses? It is a known fact that the man is the head of the home. Being the head does not equate bullying the members of his home. Rather, it is about providing, protecting and ensuring there is discipline in the home. However, in this area, many men have failed. Most men these days are now passing the buck to the wife. They mostly complain of the harsh economy, the unseen forces antagonizing the menfolk.According to nolongerfatherless.com, 85% of youth in prison come from fatherless homes. Most of them were raised by their mothers and that is why they are involved in one social vice or the other. It will be a tough job for a woman to raise a child alone, especially a male child. There is a need for the father to be present in the life of the child.

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Real fathers aren’t those that are only virile sexually but those whose eyes picture the needs of their homes and they go the extra mile to make sure that gap is filled. Real men replicate timeless virtues to their young innocent children. They ensure they instill the principles of humanity, hard work and a sense of taking responsibility for wrong acts into their children.A real father will not make a wreck of his home. Neither will he stand idle while his home suffers attack from human and environmental elements. Real fathers are compassionate and eager to be part of the development of their children. They are not those who chase pleasure at the expense of their family.It is not a good testimony to have another man take your place in the life of your loved ones especially when you are still very much alive. Ask yourself this question: Am I a real man? Does my little absence make my home cranky? Does my presence allay tensions or does it exacerbate it? If your answers are in the negative, then there is a need to make a U-turn by doing the right thing. Let the change begin with you. Take the mantle of ‘realfathership’ and put it on. Your home is counting on you!READ ALSO: 5 Steps You Need To Bounce Back After Experiencing Failure