6 Things A Man Must Know Before Saying I Do

“I do”, is just two words but the meaning of which is deeper than many married couples fully understand, and which many of them are guilty of. As a man, it is imperative to know the implications of “I do” before saying “I do”. So, here are five things you must know before saying “I do”. 1. Assumption Nothing wrecks a marriage faster than assumption. Don’t assume that your bride feels the same way as you do. You assume that she loves you based on your love for her. Be sure that she feels the same way as you do about your relationship. Be sure also, that your values are almost the same as hers in order to avoid stories that touch later in the marriage. 2. Compatibility Can two walk together except they be agreed, says the Holy Bible. Another fundamental thing you should settle before going to the altar to say I do, is the compatibility between you and your supposed bride to be. It is impossible for an elephant to marry a warthog, they are certainly not compatible. You must make sure that the lady you have chosen to be your life partner is someone who has similar interests as yours. It will be difficult to clip the feathers of a woman who is the partying type to suit your own reserved personality.  3. Lay It Bare It is always important to be who you really are. Do not take the character or role that is not suited to your personality because you want to please or marry a woman. You know fully well that you don’t fancy a woman who is loud in her appearance but you chose to keep mute and assume you will change her when both of you get married. Don’t be deceived, this may become an herculean task to take on. Perhaps, you have a high libido and you feel telling your bride to be will upset her and even put an end to the relationship. It is better to have a broken engagement than a broken marriage. So, tell all she needs to know about you.   4. Beware of Third Party Many marriages have been invaded by third parties and this has brought a lot of strains on the marriage. It is far better for both of you to commit to a way in which you will deal with your differences without involving the third party. Failure to do this can destroy your marital relationship.  5. Never Discuss Your Fiance’s Weaknesses With Others Have it at the back of your mind that you are not getting married to an angel. Both of you are still work in progress. So, discussing your fiance’s weaknesses is like exposing her to attacks. It is her weakness that you discuss with others that they will use as yardstick to judge her for every little thing. 6. Family Finance Decide beforehand if both of you will operate a joint account or separate account. Part of your discussion will also include what each party contributes to the family purse. Agree before saying what percentage of your earnings goes to the family purse. Will it be solely borne by one person or it will be a joint kind of arrangement on specific and manageable ratio?  Conclusion “I do” is a statement of commitment and if you are not sure about what you will be committing yourself to, it is better not start the journey. However, if you have already said I do, you have equally done well, and you should adopt the tips stated above in order to navigate the ship of your marriage to the desired shore.READ ALSO: 6 Things A Woman Should Know Before Marriage