5 Things To Do As A Man Following A Breakup

2024-06-06T11:48:36+00:00

By Julius

The end of a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is called a breakup. Breakups are among the most excruciating heart traumas men can experience. Breakups are now referred to as Breakfast. It is a Nigerian slang for heartbreak referring to a circumstance where one party ends a relationship. In that case, the other party is said to have received or been served breakfast.

As a man, you will undoubtedly experience pain if your relationship ends because you have invested money, time, emotions and even your physical self in the relationship. So, here are five things you need to do following a breakup. 1. Give Yourself Time to Heal Praise George, in his book titled Letting Go, said that the first thing to do after a relationship ends is to take time off to heal. When you experience a breakup, you are like someone who is bleeding. Your heart is bleeding because it has been ‘broken’. You are no longer with the one you used to be in love with. So, you are lonely, you are in pain, you are full of regrets about things you should or should not have done in the relationship. All these culminate to make your heart heavy with emotional pains. Because of this, there is always the temptation to get into another relationship immediately so that you can quickly forget your ex in no time. However, things don’t work like that. You need to heal first. You need to get to the point where you are able to forgive your ex especially if she engineered the breakup.

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If you don’t take your time to heal, you will go into the new relationship with the baggage from your former relationship and that will be inimical to your new-found love. You are like a football player who has sustained an injury in an earlier match. You need to be off the field so that you can heal properly before coming up to play the next match. Failure to heal from your injury can trigger a bigger injury that can be damaging even to your life.2. Engage in Other Meaningful ActivitiesTo tell you that you will forget about the hurt and the pain in a very short time, will amount to being fed a liar. Old habits die hard, to stop loving someone you have given all your heart to will seem almost impossible. You can’t forget your ex in a jiffy but rather, do not make your life stop because of a relationship that came to an end. There is a long stretch of life ahead of you. There are so many things that you need to achieve as a man. Don’t let a setback you experienced in a relationship deny you of such. There is a story of a man who delayed marrying because he experienced a heartbreak. His girlfriend had gotten pregnant for another and tried to trick him into having sex with her so that she could pin the deed on him. The young man was so shaken by his ex-girlfriend’s scheme that he saw marriage to the opposite sex as a form of bondage. This means that you shouldn’t allow a breakup to change your mind about love and relationships.3. Don’t make your ex your enemy When you experience a breakup as a man, especially when you didn’t initiate it, it will be wrong to make a demon out of every woman. No two women are the same. That a woman jilted you is not reason enough to label every lady you meet a demon and a suspect. It will be like judging a whole by a part. Don’t do it!4. Explore Other Areas of Your Life

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You should learn to dispense your energy into something more productive. Your life mustn’t stop because you ended a relationship or were once a victim of a toxic relationship. Explore other areas of your life that you find interesting.4. Have a positive mindsetHave a positive mindset towards the new relationship you are in. It is wrong to conclude that like your last relationship, the new one is headed towards breakup. Remember that what you think in is most likely what will play out. So, stop entertaining negative thoughts. Life is all about relationships. Some come to an end, others last a lifetime.Heartbreak isn’t something pleasant but when it happens, you must make every effort to first heal emotionally before other things. Otherwise, your concentration can be grossly affected and it can jeopardize every aspect of your life.READ ALSO: Handling Rejection The Right Way