By Publisher 13 Great First Date Questions Backed by Science
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- Help you to more quickly gauge if you have a connection or not.
- Get to know their personality, history and areas of compatibility more quickly.
- Encourage great conversation.
Our Best First Date Conversation Starters:
Are you working on any personal passion projects?This is my go-to question and comes up very naturally if someone talks about a) being busy b) what they do for a living c) any hobbies. It can transition you into a nice broad discussion about hobbies and how they spend their time. It’s so much better than “What are your hobbies?”What’s the best present you ever gave someone? Ever received?If it is around the holidays or one of your birthdays you can talk about presents. This is also a great one if there is a birthday in the restaurant you are eating in! What does a typical day look like for you?Don’t ask “What do you do?” Instead, ask them about their typical day. This question will give you much more robust answers and you will learn far more about a person than just “What do you do?” You can find out if they are an early riser, how they spend their free time and typically their job will come up as well. I have found that you don’t really need to ask about their career–it usually comes up naturallyI was reading this _____ and they said____.I am a big fan of bringing up books and articles on first dates. Here are my favorite books that stimulate interesting conversations.Is there anything you don’t eat? This one comes up really easily if you are ordering food. It can produce some really easy conversation and might provide you with some great tidbits.What sort of vacations do you like to take?People often ask “Have you gone on any vacations recently?” However, someone can very quickly answer it—and they might not have gone anywhere (which results in awkward silence). Instead, try asking what kinds of vacations they like to take. This produces great conversation and ample get-to-know-you responses. Talking about traveling can even get you a second date! Professor Richard Wiseman conducted a study and found that 18% of couples who discussed travel went on a second date compared to only 9% of couples who talked about movies.Anything surprising happen today?Don’t just ask “How was your day?” Instead, ask them about what was surprising about their day. You can also try asking for their high point and low point. This will give you less of a canned response of “fine” or “pretty good.” Bonus: You can also use some of our killer conversation starters.What’s the best advice anyone ever gave you?Whenever someone shares a piece of advice with me, I typically ask them this question. It is a nice transition and brings up fascinating topics.Tell me about your closest friends.If they bring up a friend or story with friends. This is a great follow-up question and will help you get to know who they spend their time with.What were you like as a kid?Some people ask “Are you close to your family?” but this can be a bit personal for a first date and people usually have a canned answer for it. Instead ask them what they were like as a kid and let them tell you stories about them and their family.Bonus: If you are familiar with Birth Order personality types (highly recommend it) you can ask if they have siblings and talk about birth order—do they fit the typical personality types for their order?I’ve been watching ____ and love it. Have you seen any good movies or TV shows lately?This is an easy one and will give you an idea of their viewing tastes.Bonus: Which fictional character do you relate to the most?Have you been to any good restaurants recently?If you are eating out and talking about the quality of the food/menu/atmosphere this is an easy segue question to find out their dining habits.Do you have any pet peeves?This can come up as annoyances arrive (inevitable)—someone is texting at the next table, someone is speaking too loudly across the room, there is a long line… Bonus: Share SecretsBy sharing personal and emotional exchanges, you can promote connection according to Psychology Professor, Arthur Aron. Take it a step further and discuss controversial topics like your stance on the upcoming presidential election or veganism. These types of conversations fuel the brain and are far more interesting to us than the boring, dull, typical convos, according to Dan Ariely, Duke Psychology Professor.Culled from Science of PeopleDiscover more from Masculine Digest
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